New moves for Habitry: Launching Betterish

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New moves for Habitry: Launching Betterish

Betterish is focused on telling real stories of change. Betterish is also creating new things based on what we're learning from talking to real people. Betterish will help people do universally impactful things, a little bit at a time.

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Lessons from the YMCA

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Lessons from the YMCA

Coach Stevo was honored to keynote YMCA of Canada's annual summit. Here are some lessons he and Omar learned from one of the largest and oldest health organizations in the world.

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Temptation or Willpower: What Matters in the Long Run?

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Temptation or Willpower: What Matters in the Long Run?

Goal achievement seems to be more about avoiding situations that are tempting, rather than fighting them with willpower. But of course, we all experience temptation and we’re never gonna stop experiencing temptation, so the question becomes…

What do we make of the fact that we our long-term goals and conflict with our short-term temptations? As always, the founder of humanistic psychology, Carl Rogers, has a starting answer:

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The Motivator Trap (And How to Avoid it)

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The Motivator Trap (And How to Avoid it)

Coaches can’t motivate their clients, yet we often act like we can. Because we don’t set appropriate relationship boundaries, we end up holding ourselves accountable to motivating our clients. And this sets them up for failure in the long run.

So we need to understand how to avoid The Motivator Trap. Otherwise, we prevent clients from appreciating and using our expert advice. 

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From Instructor to Motivator: The Art Of Coaching

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From Instructor to Motivator: The Art Of Coaching

“How am I helping you?” is a simple question to ask a client. A short five words. Only sixteen letters. Yet such a powerful tool for building strong relationships. This friendly question may even startle the client you ask, but it will also make them think. The ensuing conversation will deepen their whole perspective of who you are as their coach. And, their honest, heartfelt responses will let you know if your assumptions about what you do are spot-on or way off.

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How to Kickstart a Habit Again

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How to Kickstart a Habit Again

Let’s talk about something that everyone knows but isn't fun to admit: changing your habits is hard. You’re going to struggle. You’re going to stop following that awesome workout routine you found on YouTube because you don’t care for it anymore. You’re going to stop practicing your Spanish lessons because you aren’t improving as fast as you thought. You’re going to stop meditating for 30 minutes every day, because well, it hurts to meditate for 30 minutes a day, and you feel like a vegetable after.

So how can you get back on track? How can you make the habit personally meaningful again? After working with hundreds of coaching professionals and thousands of clients, we know some suggestions for helping people like you get back into the game.

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We’ve all been wrong about Willpower. And that’s OK.

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We’ve all been wrong about Willpower. And that’s OK.

For 20 years, we thought the science of willpower was settled.

We had no idea how wrong we could be. 

This month, after 2 years of waiting, a paper is coming out that is blowing up everything. It's making top social psychologists consider drowning themselves in booze and leaving the profession on their blogs. It's making us all reconsider how we know what we know. And it's made Habitry look long and hard about how we recommend Motivators work with clients.

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Understanding Stories of Transformation: Eric and Peety

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Understanding Stories of Transformation: Eric and Peety

Do you know why you achieved the things you've achieved? Do you know how?

We're all excited and inspired when we see stories of transformation. In the United States, personal transformation is part of our cultural identity. We see ourselves as people who transform from the lowest status to the highest. 

It’s little surprise, then, that a transformational story is gaining traction in social media this week. Produced by the Humane Society Silicon Valley, the story of Eric and Peety currently has over 18 million views on Facebook.

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Don't Grow It Alone: Use Your Communities to Build Your Community

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Don't Grow It Alone: Use Your Communities to Build Your Community

I stared at my phone, reading the simple instructions Omar had left for us in the Habitry app during the first Essentials of Habit Coaching cohort.

I swallowed hard. No big deal, I said to myself. I got this. He had just asked us to work on a new coaching habit: “I will start group conversations about change.”

What if everyone says no when I ask them to join my group? What if I don't have anything to say?

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Momentum Trumps Everything

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Momentum Trumps Everything

When I was studying for a Ph.D. in Psychology, I felt miserable. Focusing only on research wore me down. I felt a gnawing desire to go out and practice. To apply psychology. I famously (infamously?) decided to quit grad school not just once, but twice in the span of a year. Facepalm. The second time around I was so embarrassed I didn’t even say goodbye to most of my friends in the program. Why was it so hard to just quit and start working on my career, the first time? Why did I have to prolong the misery?

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3 Questions to Ask Yourself When You Fail to Achieve a Goal

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3 Questions to Ask Yourself When You Fail to Achieve a Goal

Well, here you are. You failed at a goal you set yourself. 

It's a terrible feeling to think of having failed at a goal. And yet it's a very common experience. People often fail to get things they want. Just as common is the urge to blame yourself for it — to say that you didn't want it enough, you weren't good enough, or you just didn't try hard enough. 

But there are some key aspects of goal setting that can set people up to fail without them realizing it. Let's look back on your goal and efforts toward it and see what we can find. 

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The 3 Crucial Feelings You Must Experience Before You Can Change

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The 3 Crucial Feelings You Must Experience Before You Can Change

People come to us to help them increase their motivation to change. But the reality is, people have finite time and energy and many priorities. They can only work on whatever we're helping them do more often for a temporary period of time. And they might even start rebelling against what we ask them to do. So what can we do instead?

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Pay it Forward

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Pay it Forward

I used to think I didn't market. But I was an idiot. It just didn't feel like I was marketing. And if you want getting the word out about your business to be easier and less effortful, your marketing has to become a system of habits.

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