How often does Melanie Roach perform the snatch? How often does Haile Gebrselassie run? When do writers write and musicians play? Every. Damn. Day. How often do you do the things that you want to be good at? Skills are just habits multiplied by time. And hotness is a skill that you can chose to master if you put in the work. Every. Damn. Day.
The Serial Accumulation of Habits
Go to someone who does what you want to do at the highest level you can find. Whether it's professional football or just someone who turned their life around and took control of their body. Ask them the five most important things that it took to get to where they are; these are the five habits that they needed to have in order to meet their goals. In the case of the latter person, it might have been portion control, getting an enjoyable fitness routine, finding a trainer they liked, putting down the soda, or finding a sport they liked. Ask them to rank those habits from most effective to least effective. Now wake up tomorrow and start doing #1. Every. Damn. Day. In three weeks, start doing #2. In 6 weeks, start doing #3, and so on. I promise that if you can dedicate yourself to this simple "habit accumulation plan" for 12 weeks, you will not recognize yourself. The secret is doing them one at a time. Every. Damn. Day.
I can't make this more complicated because it isn't. I can't sell you something here because the only thing it takes is you. If you don't know what to do, just ask. If you know what to do, do it. 12 weeks. That's three months and everyone in your life will ask how you did it. And the only thing you will have to tell them is, "I just got up and did it. Every. Damn. Day."