Vanessa Naylon shared a promotion idea for getting clients during the holidays. 

“I've been talking to a lot of coaches who are planning new programs for January 2016. So far hardly anyone has told me they're launching something in November or December. I think you could capture a unique audience with a message of “Build a Healthy Strategy for the Holidays” or “Get Ready for the Holidays”. This works well for habit-based coaching and more traditional training programs alike...”

  • Brian Tabor: I'm hosting my second foam rolling and eating habits workshop. We allow people to chat about what's easy and what's hard and discuss takeaway strategies. I'm gonna wrap this one up by discussing reasons for just focusing on one habit at a time and how they can make a good habit. Then they will be encouraged to craft a habit of their own to work on for the next couple of weeks. Finish that up with the option to a.) follow up with me via email in a couple weeks or b.) lets get together for a more thorough nutrition assessment and begin working on habits together via paid coaching
  • Chris Forrest: Running a Lean Eating Course that lasts for 6 weeks (as a prelude to the Habitry Coaching Group). Kind of like essentials is for habitry. Basic habits to nail.
  • Gillian Thomas: Chas Cook and I are launching a four week Holiday Habits nutritional coaching program like this! We're focusing on habits specific to the holidays such as navigating parties, dealing with food-pushers, enjoying your treats in moderation, how to stay on track while travelling, etc. We're hoping that some of those people will then be ready to jump on board for a Level 1 program in January!
  • Seth Munsey: Next Friday evening we are having a "Healthy Holiday Habits Workshop and Potluck!"

Jessica Owens Mauk asked for advice on dealing with a client who wants to change but can't make herself take action

  • Coach Stevo: Regardless of Benjamin Tormey's intended level of snark, I actually think this might be helpful for her, Jessica Owens Mauk. Have her check in every day that she's READING other people's check ins. She doesn't have to do anything except read other people's check ins so she can see everyone is fine. No one is being "traumatized" and people are learning and doing things well.I used to do this all the time with exercise classes. It's essentially the habit of "showing up and seeing that no one is being hurt and everything is OK." And she can answer the 2Qs on this, too. With everyone else, or not.
  • Omar Ganai: Remind her everything is optional, Jessica Owens Mauk. She can take part in the checking-in as much as or as little as she wants. And help her personalize the habit to her level of confidence.
  • Siriji Lamenzo: something I've done with a similar situation is to encourage the habit changes, but with no end date. I'm having my client simply keep track of how well they do with the things I've given them and over time it's gotten closer to 80-90% compliance. This way it's given them the power to change in a positive and non-threatening way. With your gentle nudging and support to keep them on track. Something like that might work better for her. Try to get her out of the short-term, quick fix mindset and more into tangible realistic habit changes.
  • Georgie Fear: I would recognize her feelings as a helpful, healthy response to being burned in the past. She learned an important lesson, and that's totally high-fiveable. I could see saying something like "I really respect that you don't want to make the same mistakes you have before, it shows wisdom and intelligence! Let's talk about what specifically is unsettling. It sounds like you want to *not* blindly do a one-size fits all thing, and also don't want to do anything at an intensity that isn't 100% maintainable. You're ready to change for good, on your own timeline and on your own terms. Do I have that right?" And if its fitting, then, "I can reassure you that we will want to scale each behavior to your readiness level, and keep them small. You really are the boss here, so if something feels like it's too hard to keep up for long, that's an important job you have to speak up. You see, unlike those prefab challenges that tell YOU how much and when and what you'll do, this is a partnership. You make the decisions about much and how often and what specifically you WANT to do, and the coaches and other participants are here for social support, tips, and company on the journey."

Chuck Osswald asks,  "Should we ever really be asking our clients Why?"

  • Sean Flanagan: I personally would ask something like "What obstacle did you encounter?". That would be more likely to inform us of potential changes in plans with new habits, and would be less likely to create defensiveness. What are your thoughts on something like that?
  • Jean Blomo: I echo what Sean says here and want to add that like you said, they don't really know why, but you can ask them what they *think* are the possible reasons for any given action (or any given thought). My goal is actually just shifting their awareness from "I just do it" to "I see myself doing it" to "I wonder why I do this" to "I wonder if there's a different way of doing this," and finally, "let's try a different way of doing it." But I've found a really critical element of that is non-judgemental awareness. So, when asking why, it needs to be in the most non-confrontational, non-judgemental way.
  • Josh Hillis: "Also, don't be afraid to break out of normal workout box. I have some clients that workout for an hour 9x per month... ...and I have other clients who workout for 5-10 minutes 4-5x per week (which works well both for schedule and soreness). I've had clients that just worked out with me, once per week, for months. And it was a big step forward for them. And they got stronger."
  • Coach Stevo: This is a nit-picky thing, but literally using the word "why" can put clients on the defensive. At Habitry, Co and in the Essentials Class, we teach coaches to use different words to ask "why" and practice doing it for a week straight. Here's some examples of ways to ask "why" without asking "why:" “Would you mind walking us through your thinking on that?” "How did you arrive at that conclusion?" "What do you think lead to that?" "How do you think you ended up here?"
  • Ryan Bergren: Was just going to say what Steven said. Why elicits a defensive reaction so be careful using it otherwise they will end defending their poor behaviors and habits. But if you can get them to defend reasoning for changing by asking why at the right time they will defend themselves right into the perfect change.

Ashley Palmer wanted to know,  "How would you help a client who is worried about confrontation of this sort over the holidays?"

  • Rob Morris: Pointing out the faults in their theories or methods won't help and it will likely make things worse. I have this issue not with fitness, but other areas of life. Maybe encourage her to listen to them and let them know that she is really happy and feels good about her direction and encourage her to allow them their opinions. I like where you are going with the "Thanks but no thanks.". If she lets them know that she appreciates that they care and want to help, but right now in her life she has something that feels right to her perhaps they will ease up. Just a thought. Usually no amount of facts about why they are "wrong" will help the situation. They will have to come to that conclusion in their own.
  • Gillian Thomas: If it works for her values, she may need to straight up tell them "I really appreciate that you want to help me. However, I don't feel that Advocare is the solution for *me.* I feel most comfortable doing "x" and it would really mean a lot to me if I had your support because you are important to me."
  • Coach Stevo: Maybe applicable is what I do with politics at extended family functions:"I would love to listen more to what you have to say about this at another time when the spirit of our conversation doesn't make the people we came here to be with uncomfortable. How about a phone call next week?" P.S. No one ever follows up with the phone call. At some point though, she's gonna have to use her words and tell them, "no. Stop asking." Telling them she'll talk about it later could take the pressure off during family stuff and give her the space she needs to drop the hammer at a more appropriate time.
  • Vanessa Naylon: Ultimately, I might suggest leading with motivational interviewing and eliciting ideas from her, because her ideas will be most appropriate to her family politics.

Vanessa Naylon started a discussion on recording video

"Gettin’ the hang of this video thing! By which I mean I am good at pressing the “record” button. Yesterday Steven Michael Ledbetter and I shot a dozen videos of different lengths on different topics. Anyone else working on video content for their programs this week? Or thinking about it?"

  • Coach Stevo: We shoot on exclusively on iPhones (5s, 6, 6s) and Vanessa Naylon edits on iMovie (we used to use Final Cut X, but it wasn't necessary). We don't ever use scripts. Vanessa Naylon or Omar Ganai usually just ask me a question, then I rant. I never do more than one take for Coach Stevo Daily. When we have an all-day shoot, we make an outline, but I'm usually entirely off script 5min in.

Charles Gross started a discussion on how we can help clients develop self love.

"Hey all, I was wondering if you could point me toward some resources or ideas to help someone develop self love. I've been working with them closely, and something I said lead them to say that they believe their self-hated and negative perspective is obstructing their lifestyle change efforts."

  • Susan Ogilvie: Maybe a habit that helps practice a little self love chuck? Like there were a couple of good ones that start to foster that in the Habitry ebook I just picked up a couple of weeks ago. Susan Ogilvie Also, I wrote this last winter...dunno if it could help. http://sofitwellness.com/if-you-cant-be-the-one-you-love.../
  • Ashley Palmer: As a coach a great place to start is reframing when you hear negative self talk. Find the awesome in the thing their discouraged about and point that out to them. Celebrate every single awesome thing big or small.
  • Claudio Espinoza: Men, Women, and Worthiness by Brene Brown. It's in audio format (only, I believe) on Amazon for $10.
  • Matt TalleyL I've found that lack of meaningful life change fuels this lack of self love and self esteem in many people. While it's not currently a culturally popular view, there's a lot to be said about the idea of earning greater self esteem and self regard through accomplishment and meaningful effort toward what's important. I think they might have it backwards. "If I love myself, I can do things!" is what a lot of people believe and there is no shortage of reinforcement on that point. "If I do things, I'll love that about myself!" is what a lot of people never even seriously consider. Thinking more and more highly of yourself JUST by thinking more highly of yourself... that's arguably not a great thing in many cases. Believing you have basic dignity and are worthy of respect; that's great. But most people think they 'need' way more 'self love' and 'self esteem' and 'self acceptance' than that when too often they just want to eat and enjoy a loaf of bread without helping to bake any (metaphorically speaking in reference to Little Red Hen story).
  • Georgie Fear: I have recently been using the Headspace app and adore it (guided meditations) I see they have some meditation series focused on self love.

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